Bikini Ready Bods…Is Yours?

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Summer is in full swing and I’m wondering if you have ventured out in your bathing suit yet?

Are you bikini ready?

Of course you are! You have a body, you have a suit—put it one and there you have it!

Or not.

So many women feel self-conscious in their bodies and for good reason. But it’s not what you think. Feeling insecure isn’t due to any flaw in your beautiful self, no matter your size. It’s not your fault. Nothing is wrong with you.

You are bombarded constantly with computer enhanced images of “the perfect body” –WHICH DOES NOT EXIST. Even models will tell you they don’t look like their pictures.

I grew up thinking real women didn’t have any pores on their faces because all I saw was “airbrushed” faces of women. I figured when I grew up my skin would somehow transform into that poreless look if I used enough “pore shrinking” cream.

I grew up thinking my body was flawed because I had a “cute” little tummy even in my best shape. Little did I know that a flat stomach is not the norm on real women. I thought something was wrong with my body.

I grew up thinking my powerful soccer thighs were too big, because I didn’t have a thigh gap like 1 or 2 of my teammates. My thighs are designed to gap and theirs were.

Aside from the images we are assaulted with on tv, movies, social media, and print ads we live in a youth, beauty and thin OBSESSED culture. If you interact with the world this isn’t news to you.

These impossible ideals ae what our society indoctrinates us all with. Men included. The myths run deep into our consciousness. And to top it all off, the narcissism levels in our culture are going off the charts. That means people are becoming more and more self-involved, self-obsessed and self-focused. You can google it.

Now, let’s get back to your bikini bod. To get ready for the water you have to wade through layers and layers of this crap. It’s piled so high it invades your subconscious and guides your decisions and feelings without your awareness.

What can you do to clear your path and frolic freely this summer? How can you feel more comfortable in your skin, especially when you are showing more of it?

I’ve got some ideas and have found some things that work. I would love to hear what you’ve discovered that helps on your body love journey. Join our discussion in the free Summer Sizzle Series. Let’s get out those questions and begin to find some answers to end this madness that has taken over our society and our lives.

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Ready for Your Summer Sizzle?

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First of all, I was all set to hold our annual Body Love Summer Camp this August. It was on the calender and on the web site…But, I just wasn’t feeling it this year. So I decided to post-pone that event to next year and do something NEW instead!

ANNOUNCING the first SUMMER SIZZLE SERIES!

Your burning questions answered on all topics related to your body confidence and acceptance.

This will be a series of live Q&A calls with me and YOU.

We will get down to the nitty gritty and even have some time for a little “hot-seat” laser coaching for a few special participants.

The first call is July 28th, so sign up and submit your questions!

Join the conversation here.

Submit your questions in the comments, via email, FB, IG, Twitter, etc.

See you soon!

The Land of the Beautiful and Body Image Triggers

SUP_paddleHI_hawaii_yoga-5446What are your triggers?

That is my question for this week to you all. I’m back in my home town, where I grew up and lived for 35 years. The beach is in my blood! I love it here. AND, I have lived away from all this for almost 6 years. I lived in the hippie pot growing boonies on the Mendocino coast for 5 of them.

People were very relaxed, natural and accepting. You didn’t see a lot of cosmetic surgery, and the place was definitely not focused on how one looked for their social acceptance and self esteem. The natural beauty of the redwoods meeting the sea seemed to imbue the culture there with respect for a more natural state of things. Most women didn’t wear make-up much. Of course, there was a fashion aesthetic and it was fun and funky! Anyhow, my point is that even at the beach, the pool or wherever you could just BE without worrying about being judged on your cellulite content!

Six years is enough time to really be able to see my hometown with even fresher eyes; to see what level of the frog-in-the-soon-to-be-boiling kettle is going on here in relation to what is considered beautiful and how people are valued. I can see how easy it would be to feel insecure if you didn’t fit in the land of the beautiful people which strives for physical perfection. Obviously, this is a generalization. Plenty of people of depth and significance live here that don’t focus on the superficial. But you CAN feel the vibe especially strong in certain places.

I’m noticing all this in the context of having gained some weight recently beyond my comfort zone (yes, fat people have comfort zones too!) due to hypothyroidism and peri-menopausal hormone craziness. I laugh at it actually because I am in a phase of working out regularly at the gym and I think it is so funny!

So, I’m not really triggered per se. But I am watching all this and thinking about it. I’m talking with my body a lot. Happily, I can report that I’m not reverting back to teenage insecurities even when I’m around them! Yay for growth. smile emoticon

What are your triggers in our society? Share below please!

BBL Speakers Courtney Chalfant & Coco O’Donnell

Courtney Chalfant  –  An Interview with Yogi, Author and Founder of Yahweh Yoga.

Coco O’Donnell – America’s Clean Living Coach on Loving your Body through the process of aging. The power of healthy food and simple habits on feeling good. Plus a few tips for keeping your skin young and supple.

“God reminds me every day that I am...Courtney Chalfant www.BraveBodyLove.com Coco O'Donnell (1)

“Bringing Women from All Over the Globe Together

in an Epic Online Event to End Body Image Issues and

Awaken Our Collective Female Power.”

With Michelle Hess + 35 Experts

February 14-28, 2015

BBL Speakers Susan Berry, Jen McLellan & Megan Gahan

Susan Berry –  “BadAss Eating.” How do we stay mindful, present, connected with and responding to not only what the mind and mouth desire, but learning to eat through the whole body?

Jen McLellan – “Plus Sized Birth Coach on finding the best Care Provider.”

Megan Gahan – “How a Love Letter to My Body Changed My Life.”

Susan Berry. www.BraveBodyLove.com Jen McLellan. www.BraveBodyLove.com -Sharing my story and being completely.Megan Gahan www.BraveBodyLove.com

 

“Bringing Women from All Over the Globe Together

in an Epic Online Event to End Body Image Issues and

Awaken Our Collective Female Power.”

With Michelle Hess + 35 Experts

February 14-28, 2015

BBL Speakers Amber Karnes, Dr. Carla Hannaford & Kristina Hess, JD

Amber Karnes – Building Body Positivity with Yoga. The impact of permission, consent and owning your body space on body acceptance.

Dr. Carla Hannaford – The importance of Heart-Connection and Movement in Embodied Love. The power of the heart over the brain, female biology and the importance of playful movement.

Kristina Hess – Sharing her journey in Body Love from a Spiritual Perspective. Overcoming disordered eating, compulsive exercise and finding the path to real love and acceptance.

Amber Karnes. www.BraveBodyLove.com Kristina Hess Quote Each of us is unique with special gifts Carla Hannaford #BraveBodyLove

 

“Bringing Women from All Over the Globe Together

in an Epic Online Event to End Body Image Issues and

Awaken Our Collective Female Power.”

With Michelle Hess + 35 Experts

February 14-28, 2015

BBL Speakers Julie Pierce, Jen Venegas, Janelle Maguire

Julie Pierce – “Unconditional self-acceptance:  Your solid foundation for long-term health and wellness” Did you know that most of us are carrying around mind-twisting and heart-torturing conflict? This conflict creates a lot of struggle that we’re often not even aware of. It shows up in our bodies and in our lives in all sorts of crazy ways.

Jen Venegas – Rocking Feminist Fashion. How “Fatshion” community turned love of fashion into body love liberation.

Janelle Maguire — “The Healing Power of the Camera.” Janelle will be sharing about the healing power of the camera, and how it can help you accept, love and celebrate your physical appearance. She’ll also be sharing about how you can make friends with the camera even if it’s been a lifelong enemy.

Janelle-Quote-Picture www.BraveBodyLove.com #BBL2k15 Jen Venegas Julie Pierce. www.BraveBodyLove.com Your body is a messenger

 

“Bringing Women from All Over the Globe Together

in an Epic Online Event to End Body Image Issues and

Awaken Our Collective Female Power.”

With Michelle Hess + 35 Experts

February 14-28, 2015

BBL Speakers Emily Rosen, Julie Nowak, Bethany & Emma

Emily Rosen — “How Your Eating Psychology Affects Your Health and Body Image.” It’s not just what you eat, it’s how you eat.  The stress factor and digestion. The real story on emotional eating and more!

Julie Nowak – “Embodying Food Justice and Body Positivity” exploring the intersection of therapeutic farming, feminist food studies, eco-psychology & finding healing from food struggles.

Bethany & Emma – ” Pudge PDX: Enriching the fat community through body positive events and the size acceptance media collective.”

Emily_quote2_edited-1-Hurting bodies, hurting communities, Julie Nowak www.BraveBodyLove.com Brave Body Love to me means consciously...Bethany Tate www.BraveBodyLove.com -You get to live in your body however..Emma McIrvin #BBL2k15

 

“Bringing Women from All Over the Globe Together

in an Epic Online Event to End Body Image Issues and

Awaken Our Collective Female Power.”

With Michelle Hess + 35 Experts

February 14-28, 2015

BBL Speakers Joy Bufalini, Lisa Torba, Ragen Chastain

Joy Bufalini — “How to Short Circuit Overeating and Embrace Self Care during Stressful Times.”

Lisa Torba – “Change Your Clothes, Change Your Life” with Your Signature Element.

Ragen Chastain – “The World is Messed Up, But You Are Fine.”  An interactive talk that examines the messages that come to us through popular culture about beauty, our bodies, and our health.

JoyBufalini BraveBodyLove.com #BBL2k15 Lisa Torba quote pic copy Ragen dance quote

 

“Bringing Women from All Over the Globe Together

in an Epic Online Event to End Body Image Issues and

Awaken Our Collective Female Power.”

With Michelle Hess + 35 Experts

February 14-28, 2015

BBL Speakers Shawnta Pulliam, Sandy Ross, Carrie Leigh Sandoval

Shawnta Pullium–Nurturing Body Image Resilience in Girls

Sandra Ross– It’s Time to Get On With It! (All the way from Australia!!)

Carrie Leigh Sandoval–Helping Our Girls Drop the Worry and Love Who They Really Are ​

Never let others define beauty for you. Shawnta Pulliam #BBL2k15 #BraveBodyLove Saying no to the beauty industry is...Sandy Ross. #BBL2k15 Carrie Sandoval #BBL2k15

 

“Bringing Women from All Over the Globe Together

in an Epic Online Event to End Body Image Issues and

Awaken Our Collective Female Power.”

With Michelle Hess + 35 Experts

February 14-28, 2015

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