Ditch The Diet Train (do you freak out with holiday weight gain?)

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With the holiday season upon us, talk about food is everywhere and so is the diet culture freak out. You’ll hear the “dire” stats of the average poundage (US) people gain at the end of every year (In the US it’s 2.5 lbs). Then, all the those “useful” tips that every chronic dieter lives by pop up in article and TV news features every where you turn. And since, chronic restricters are gonna let loose during the festivities, the guilt piles on!

They are priming the pump…for when people unbutton their pants lounging on the couch in a food coma. Then they move in for the kill:

New Year’s RESOLUTIONS!!!

You’ll be sufficiently chastised for your over-indulgence (such a bad, bad girl) and ready to jump on the New Year’s Diet Train.  In the back of the train the billions of dollars are jumping for joy.

Every year it’s the same thing, because this cycle is what passes for normal around here.

I’m so over it! (Are you?)

Let me tell you that if you’re caught in this cycle you are not a failure. You are not a weak-willed glutton in need of drastic measures (read: punishment)

You and food together is not a moral issues.

It’s really just a simple matter of a biological cycle in overdrive because, Guess What? If you diet all the time, your brain is in “famine” mode (not a happy place to be). When you finally loosen the reins a little bit it reacts like any normal starved person would.

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Look! Food! More! Don’t Stop! I need fuellllllll!

Who can blame your brain. Your history tells it the next real fueling opportunity may be a long ways away. The only way to stop this madness is to get off that gravy train for good.

Here’s the good news:

It’s possible. I’ve done it and so can you. People of all sizes have dropped out of diet culture and don’t worry about food during the holidays anymore.

I’ve got to tell you the truth though (always): The longer you’ve been on that crazy train, the longer it will take to reprogram your brain.

Free your mind and the rest will follow. 🙂

It took me about 2 years to radically change the way I think by uncovering my blind spots. My worldview is just different now.

Here are a few ideas to get you started on becoming a happy diet culture drop out.

1. Accept you need to change & decide to actually do it.

2.Embrace & grow your self-compassion muscles (start small, practice often)

3. Find others on the same journey. (HINT: They are not hanging out at Weight Watcher meetings! Check out my IG friends to start…)

4. Start today. Hey, it’s a process, so you might as well stick your pinkie in the cool-aid now. 🙂

Love,

Michelle

PS. If you are ready for a group experience to support you on this journey, we’ve got 2 openings left in your Body Freedom Formula. We are waiting for you to jump in the mix. Our kick off is a New Year’s Day virtual mini-retreat (eating encouraged).
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BBL Speakers Susan Berry, Jen McLellan & Megan Gahan

Susan Berry –  “BadAss Eating.” How do we stay mindful, present, connected with and responding to not only what the mind and mouth desire, but learning to eat through the whole body?

Jen McLellan – “Plus Sized Birth Coach on finding the best Care Provider.”

Megan Gahan – “How a Love Letter to My Body Changed My Life.”

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“Bringing Women from All Over the Globe Together

in an Epic Online Event to End Body Image Issues and

Awaken Our Collective Female Power.”

With Michelle Hess + 35 Experts

February 14-28, 2015

BBL Speakers Emily Rosen, Julie Nowak, Bethany & Emma

Emily Rosen — “How Your Eating Psychology Affects Your Health and Body Image.” It’s not just what you eat, it’s how you eat.  The stress factor and digestion. The real story on emotional eating and more!

Julie Nowak – “Embodying Food Justice and Body Positivity” exploring the intersection of therapeutic farming, feminist food studies, eco-psychology & finding healing from food struggles.

Bethany & Emma – ” Pudge PDX: Enriching the fat community through body positive events and the size acceptance media collective.”

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“Bringing Women from All Over the Globe Together

in an Epic Online Event to End Body Image Issues and

Awaken Our Collective Female Power.”

With Michelle Hess + 35 Experts

February 14-28, 2015

BBL Speakers Joy Bufalini, Lisa Torba, Ragen Chastain

Joy Bufalini — “How to Short Circuit Overeating and Embrace Self Care during Stressful Times.”

Lisa Torba – “Change Your Clothes, Change Your Life” with Your Signature Element.

Ragen Chastain – “The World is Messed Up, But You Are Fine.”  An interactive talk that examines the messages that come to us through popular culture about beauty, our bodies, and our health.

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“Bringing Women from All Over the Globe Together

in an Epic Online Event to End Body Image Issues and

Awaken Our Collective Female Power.”

With Michelle Hess + 35 Experts

February 14-28, 2015

BBL Speakers Anna Guest-Jelley, Charrise McCrorey, Dr. Deah Schwartz

Anna Guest-Jelley — Interview on her newest book, Yoga & Body Image

Charrise McCrorey — A Body Love Story: Naked in New York?

Dr. Deah Schwartz — Mixed Nuts & Cultivating Body Positivity

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“Bringing Women from All Over the Globe Together

in an Epic Online Event to End Body Image Issues and

Awaken Our Collective Female Power.”

With Michelle Hess + 35 Experts

February 14-28, 2015

BBL Speakers Trudy Scott, Sonya Renee, Katana Fatale

Trudy Scott – Serotonin, Confidence and Calm

Sonya Renee –  Founder of The Body is Not an Apology shares with us about radical self-acceptance

Katana Fatale – Plus Size Model discusses developing healthy body love in (all) our daughters

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“Bringing Women from All Over the Globe Together

in an Epic Online Event to End Body Image Issues and

Awaken Our Collective Female Power.”

With Michelle Hess + 35 Experts

February 14-28, 2015

 

When a Nap Doesn’t Fix it…

947116_448607848562804_75781737_nRight now I’m feeling a little pride. Just a tiddle. You see, the past 24 hours a funk hit me all of a sudden. I was a big grump. Who knows what set it off? Continuous lack of sleep ? Lack of exercise– other than moving and unpacking boxes? Over stimulation with coffee and social situations? Whatever it was, a nap didn’t fix it.

Actually, I’m still in this funk to a degree and I’m still feeling proud. I’ve used food to change my bio-chemistry all my adult life. Everyone does it on some level, some are just more conscious of it than others.  Food is medicine, after all. Because I have struggled with biologically induced depression/anxiety for many years, comfort food that lifts my mood has been a constant in my life. (Bear claw pastries, coffee ice-cream, anything sweet & yeasty—yum!)

Don’t worry, this isn’t a lecture on the evils of sugar (that comes later, lol!).

So just now I mindfully ate a delicious shrimp stir-fry. No, it wasn’t homemade, and yes, it had a sweet soy sauce (What is not to love about a sweet chili sauces?). It also consisted of lovely vegetables. As I write this I wish I had more.

Before I made the stir-fry I was thinking: I’m hungry. I’m grumpy. Sugar! I could eat those Honey Nut Cheerios…is that what I really want? [open freezer]No! Let’s have shrimp stir-fry. Mmmm.

I really do talk to myself this way!

Now the back story is that the night before—a few hours into this funk—I did eat that sweet cereal and it was a good choice. I had eaten a little bit slowly and mindfully. Plus, it meant I wasn’t eating the last chocolate pop tarts hidden in the cupboard. (Did he really think I wouldn’t find them?!)

Yes, I know, I deserve a medal for willpower!

Not.

Why? Because it didn’t entail as much willpower as it did listening to all my hungers crying out—or whining in this case…

And yes, we applaud these small wins at BraveGirl because they add up.

So throw a party next time you honor other parts of yourself besides the part that wants immediate numbed out escape. And have compassion on your pain. It’s real and needs some true love.

Here’s to feeding ALL your true hungers!

Love,

Michelle

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